I hate gaming at home

“Hate” might be too strong a word here, but I have a difficult time seeing the appeal of gaming in someone’s – anyone’s – home. Before everybody goes bonkers over this, lemme explain.

In an earlier post, I reminisced about different gaming clubs of my youth. One important fact about all of them was that they were in public places – a student union at university, and a police station community room. Since that time, I’ve spent a lot of time gaming in people’s homes, and with one notable exception, they’ve all struck me as distinct second choices, compared with public spaces as gaming locales. I am pretty sure this is because I see as disadvantages the very things that might appeal to others.

“But we can get together in the comfort of our own home and game as long as we like.” While it is true that time and space are nominally more under your control in your own home, the fact of the matter is that this doesn’t always work in practice. Homes have to be maintained and kept clean, and while gaming all night long might seem attractive, I rarely see decisions made at 4am that stand the test of next-day thinking (don’t get me started on jobs and getting up in the morning). What other people see as freedom I see as heaping responsibility on the person living there.

“We can really focus on the game when we’re at home.” Really? Most gamers’ households are one big distraction when it comes to gaming. Game, book and media collections, just to start with – and then there are other distractions that only arise in your own home: telemarketers, non-gaming roommates or family members, you name it.

There are other reasons, but you get the idea. I think the framework of public spaces used for gaming actually makes gaming better:

  • Conference and meeting rooms have tables and chairs – and that’s pretty much it. That’s all anybody needs. Anything more than that – couches to snooze on, etc. – will probably get in the way of gaming.
  • Clubs have set times for meetings: for example Tuesdays, start at 7pm, out by midnight – everybody knows when the game is going to start and end, and what day is set for the game. Saves lots of time trying to mesh schedules, starting and ending times, etc. Which results in more time gaming.
  • Public spaces are also neutral territory. If Homeowner Harry has a falling out with the gaming group, you need to find another place to game, post haste. But with a public locale, you don’t have these kinds of conflicts – you might get different conflicts, but not these.
  • Clean-up is a shared responsibility. Rather than assuming that Fred and his roomies will throw out the pizza boxes, everybody gets to pitch in for clean-up at the end of the session. That also usually makes it go faster (see above comment about scheduling, i.e. more time gaming).

In the end, public spaces such as gaming clubs do something else that gaming at home can never do: it makes our hobby more visible. Seeing how much people complain about “the death of gaming” it seems to me that the benefits of having a bright, friendly atmosphere of a game club outweigh the (supposed) advantages of gaming at home. To be sure, game clubs can fall victim to their own organizational faults and foibles, but in the end, I still think they come out on top.

3 thoughts on “I hate gaming at home

  1. In interesting take on things. Generally I have not had good experiences gaming in public until a very recent campaign. Overall, I still do prefer to game in the home, but then my house doesn’t have any non-gamers in it, and generally my group is good with the clean up. Still, your points are well taken.

  2. Interesting, since I find the exact opposite to be true for me, although my reasons are different.

    The main complaints I have with public spaces are noise and lack of privacy. The sorts of games I run have a tendency to end up being rather emotional, at times, and the noise and public nature serves as a barrier to allowing those emotions to arise freely. "Controversial" subject matter is also somewhat harder to deal with in a public setting.

    Mind you, you have some good points here. But in practice for me, they've rarely been issues.

  3. I personally find clubs a poor choice for the same reasons you list as good, I also find homes good choices for the reasons you list as bad in many cases. One thing that is worth pointing out as something to actually discuss rather than a mere difference in personal preferences is mess.

    If Jack and Jill are going to leave their pizza boxes for Bob to clean up at his home, they are just as likely to leave them behind in a public place, the downside being Bob now also has the option to leave them behind for the next group (which does not give a very good reputation to Gamers as being anything other disgusting slobs when the next users of the space show up to 4 day old pizza boxes week after week).

    Group clean-up duties can be as easily stated in someones home as a club, potentially more so as one person has a very strong motivation to ensure its carried out.

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